Archive for October, 2009
Question: My wife/girlfriend/whoever only orgasms with clitoral stimulation, not through intercourse, am I doing something wrong or is something wrong with her?
Answer: I cannot believe this appalling myth persists. Not only is it untrue, it’s harmful, and it does a great disservice to the potential sex you could be having. There is nothing wrong with you and there is nothing wrong with your partner. According to most studies, around 70% of women do not and will not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse or vagina-only stimulation. For all of you struggling with statistics out there, allow me to break this down for you: a woman being able to climax through vaginal intercourse only is abnormal. That is to say, not normal. Rare. Shocking even. Anatomically speaking, this makes perfect sense. The vagina, which by the by, doubles as a birth canal from to time, doesn’t have a tremendous amount of nerve endings for obvious reasons. Child birth is already sadistic enough, wouldn’t you say?
Now, with this anatomical and statistical knowledge, why is it that every time this anomaly doesn’t happen, we take it as a personal assault on our own or our partner’s abilities? Such expectations are both irrational and, in the end, detrimental to your relationship. The point is, as far as I know, for both partners to enjoy sex and at some point reach climax. The means with which one uses to reach said climax is a moot point.
Enter the clitoris. As the female equivalent of the male penis, the clitoris is your go to spot for guaranteed female orgasm (pun intended). A combined regiment of manual and oral stimulation will be just what the doctor ordered. So take your time, pay attention to what really works, and stop worrying about what’s “supposed” to happen. Sex is about enjoying one another, and everyone is different. What does work for one woman won’t necessarily work for another, which isn’t a bad thing. As they say, practice makes perfect! Enjoy the learning process!
If you are looking for the male gland, you want the word prostate. These two similarly spelled words may only be off by a letter, but they are completely different in meaning. As already mentioned, p-r-o-s-t-a-t-e is a part of the male reproductive system. It’s a gland with a very important job and requires attention and monitoring as men get older. The other word p-r-o-s-t-r-a-t-e has a few means: 1) lying face down and flat, as in submission 2) cause to lie flat 3) render one helpless or defenseless.
While one could lead to the other, meaning unchecked prostate issues could render you helpless, but for the most part these two words actually have little to do with one another. One might argue that you should be prostrate to your prostate, meaning that you should bow down to your prostate health because it is necessary to your reproductive health.
It’s common for many men to suffer from an enlarged prostate as they get older. When this occurs, there are a number of symptoms of an enlarged prostate. These include:
Frequent urges to urinate
Having difficulty maintaining a steady stream of Urine
Feeling unable to clear your bladder
Losing sexual function
Suffering from erectile dysfunction
The prostate is a walnut sized gland where semen is produced. Semen is very important to reproduction and without it; the sperm wouldn’t be able to make in through the vagina to the unfertile egg. The prostate produces semen not only to carry the sperm but to also protect them in a coating of fluid that can weather the acidic environment of the vagina.
But I digress, back to the battle of words. Just remember that if you don’t pay attention, visit your doctor and keep your prostate health up as you age, then the problems may leave you prostrate.